Demi Lovato has revealed that they are non-binary and changing pronouns to they/them.

The 28-year-old star confirmed the news on a social media post. They feel it best represents the ‘fluidity I feel in my gender expression, and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am and still am discovering’.

The singer wrote on Instagram.

“Every day we wake up, we are given another opportunity and chance to be who we want and wish to be. I’ve spent the majority of my life growing in front of all of you… you’ve seen the good, the bad, and everything in between.”

They continued: “Not only has my life been a journey for myself, I was also living for those on the other side of the cameras.”

“Today is a day I’m so happy to share more of my life with you all – I am proud to let you know that I identify as non-binary and will officially be changing my pronouns to they/them moving forward”


“This has come after a lot of healing and self-reflective work. I’m still learning and coming into myself, and I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson.”

“Sharing this with you now opens another level of vulnerability for me. I’m doing this for those out there that haven’t been able to share who they truly are with their loved ones. Please keep living in your truths and know I am sending so much love your way.”

Fans have been supportive and excited for Demi, thanking them for being candid and sharing the news.


Demi has a new podcast series 4D. In a trailer, Lovato explained: ‘Over the past year and a half, I’ve been doing some healing and self-reflective work. And through this work I have had the revelation that I identify as non-binary.”

“With that said, I’ll officially be changing my pronouns to they/them. I feel that this best represents the fluidity I feel in my gender expression, and allows me to feel most authentic and true to the person I both know I am and still am discovering”

They added: ‘I want to make it clear that I am still learning and coming into myself. I don’t claim to be an expert or a spokesperson.’

On the first episode of 4D, Demi talks to gender non-conforming writer Alok Vaid-Menon.

Demi met Alok through their mutual friend Sam Smith.

“Ignoring My Truth”

They said: “In 2018, when I overdosed, I feel like the reason why that happened was because I was ignoring my truth.”

“I was suppressing who I really am in order to please stylists or team members or even fans that wanted me to be the sexy feminine popstar in a leotard and look a certain way, I thought that was what I was supposed to be.”

“Now I realise it’s so much more important to live your truth than to ever suppress yourself because that’s the kind of stuff that happens when you do.”

“There’s nothing more freeing for me than to be unattached to a role that society wants me to play. I fully believe that gender is just another boundary that separates humanity from divine wisdom.”

They added: “There might be a time where I wanna wear a full wig. There might be a time where I want to dress completely femme presenting.”

“That doesn’t mean that in that moment, I’m identifying as a woman, it just means that’s what I want to wear in that moment. I want people to understand that just because I’m non-binary, doesn’t mean I’m not going to dress the way I want”


Alok added: ‘Gender is not about our appearance, it’s about who we are.’

Demi also explained why they want to be identified as they/them.

They said: “To me it would mean the world if people could start identifying me as they/them. I will also be accepting if people slip and say her/she, because I know being in my position, it’s going to take a while for people to get used to.”

“I think it’s important because I want to use these pronouns to feel right to me.  Also I just don’t want people to be so afraid of messing up that they don’t try to use them.”

Demi confirmed that they were pansexual two months ago, joking that they were “part of the alphabet mafia”.


They told Howard Stern that they saw adoption in their future.

Demi said: ‘I also don’t know if I’m going to end up with a guy, so I can’t really see myself even getting pregnant.

‘I don’t know. I’m so fluid now, and a part of the reason why I am so fluid is because I was super closeted off.’

Congratulations, Demi.

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